Emotional Intelligence: Responding to Personal Triggers

What are some of your emotional triggers or pet peeves?

 
* Talking about politics at work or a family gatherings
* When someone gives unsolicited advice
* Judgmental opinions
* Someone sneezing in your food
* Inconsistencies
* Spouse or subordinate overspending
* Car turning in front of you without a blinker
* No use of spellcheck in emails or important documents
* Someone with an "It's all about me" kind of attitude that you have to be around often.
* Getting cussed out/told off by a co-worker/family member
* Feeling guilty about a bad choice
* Getting slapped in the face
* When someone is rude to you for no apparent reason
* Drive-thru mishap
* When co-workers/family members arrive late

How you respond to triggers says a lot about your emotional intelligence.  When you become angry about one of your triggers, how do you cope?  - Smoke, punch a hole in the wall, drink, overeat, impulsive spending spree on amazon.com, call a friend, do a project around the house, go for a drive...

Our definition of emotional intelligence is- Emotional intelligence refers to an ability to recognize the meanings of emotions and their relationships, and to reason and problem-solve on the basis of them. Emotional intelligence is involved in the capacity to perceive emotions, assimilate emotion-related feelings, understand the information of those emotions, and manage them (Mayer et al.'s 1999)

You can take an emotional intelligence test at: Emotional Intelligence Test on the queendom.com website.  You will get an assessment from the test that will guide you through your own emotional struggles and strengths.  Review the results, explore/problem solve how you can better manage your feelings when you find yourself triggered.  This can improve relationships, provide a healthier culture at work/home, get more done around the house/work, and relieve unhealthy stress. 

Tony Nichols

 --I find joy in helping other's experience hope and peace in their life.